“The foundation of Buddha’s teaching lies in compassion, and the reason for practicing the teachings is to wipe out the persistence of ego, the number one enemy of compassion.” – Tenzin Gyatso – The 14th Dalai Lama
Overcoming Our Ego. The Process of Self DEVELOPMENT.
To overcome our ego,the process of self development, the key is understanding this “If you help enough other people get what they want out of life you will get all you want and more.” This statement rings true in all aspects of our business from selling, customer service and management. If you take your eyes of yourself and always do what is right for those that you are dealing with you will be successful.
So, why, sometimes is this such a difficult concept for many to implement? One word EGO, the latin word meaning “I”. I have neither the education nor time to get into the philosophical dialog of ego. You certainly could start a long dissertation about Freud’s concept of “ID” and “SUPEREGO” and how they interact. Again I don’t have the credentials to have that discussion, so to simplify my blog let’s just agree that we all have an ego, some small some not so small.
The problem with Ego
Ego is a critical part of our success when it comes to dealing with others. A big, strong ego can set the stage for leadership and inspiring others. Certainly the great leaders of the world were men and women with oversized egos. If not taking control my of been a problem.
Where ego can be a destructive part of our career is when we begin to believe that the “I” is all knowing. That I have all the answers, I know the best way to do this, I don’t need to learn anything, my way is the best.
Over my career I have seen all to often were very competent, experienced professionals start allowing their success to overcome their empathy of others. They stop doing the things that made them successful and allowed themselves (EGO) to believe that they had all the answers and they did not need to continue to learn and grow.
When ego takes over in our lives the “I” becomes the most important thing in our world and satisfying the “I” can destroy our business, our family and ultimately our long term success and happiness.
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How can we keep our ego in check:
- You don’t always have to be right.
- Don’t EVER feel you know everything and how to do it best.
- Listen to those around you.
- Always ask yourself” How will this effect the others involved”.
A little ego can go a long way but to much can destroy us.
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